Bereavement Death Suicide Grieving – perhaps a little help…
Grieving after a death is a process which is different for everyone. Grief may hit your straight away or never. What happens to you is your personal grief journey and there is absolutely no point in beating yourself up about it. When suicide is involved it is probably wise to start thinking about getting some help early – pretty much everyone is going to feel guilty.
Many people bury themselves in something – work, family, dealing with the estate – as a way of filling their time up to avoid grieving. That may or may not be a good idea. Sometime the problems come up a long time later and may not even be recognised as issues arising from the bereavement.
Children need particular care but we are not the ones to go into detail on that. Like adults, they may be fine, they may take the death of a parent or adult they were especially close to very hard. Or they may just consider a natural part of life – who knows. Worth keeping in touch with school to see if behaviour their changes.
There are lots of local grief counselling services in most areas, but probably the best known is Cruse Bereavement Care who have worked with the Samaritans to start addressing the particular issues of bereavement caused by suicide.
Click the link for The Cruse Bereavement Care website: it is well worth a visit. We should also mention that it is part of an employers duties to consider the mental well being of staff. And it is common sense that staff badly affected by bereavement are not going to be effective, and treating them badly could end up with an Industrial Tribunal. Best avoided!
The National Health Service also has some very useful grief counselling facilities.
Specialist grief counselling services are signposted at The Child Bereavement Network.
This site is a commercial directory of counsellors, and this is a link to their grief counsellors directory.
Grieving over the death of a child.
Something every parent fears, so it can be devastating if it happens to you – whether they are young or grown up, it is still unnatural. As Together for Short Lives says “No one can anticipate quite how they will feel or react after the death of their child; most people describe a ‘rollercoaster’ of emotions, ranging from numbness to furious anger, profound sadness to perhaps a certain relief. People find their own ways of getting through the early days.”
Their mission is to help families whose children have life threatening or life limiting issues, so well worth a visit if you know anyone with such concerns.